If (avert!) anything should go wrong, it sounds as though you're being set up to take the blame because you won't play along with the religion thing. ("You wouldn't even PRAY for your own FATHER!")

Oh, she's already told me the parable about the girl whose father died and then she broke her mother's heart by not even showing up for the church funeral and wasn't that awful and horrible, and was any belief system more important than her mother's feelings? That cheerful story was told two Christmases ago.

There wasn't much of an answer when I asked if the girl's feelings ever got to be part of the picture, and why one woman's feelings were more important than another's.

By the way, this conversation in her head is now "I was just asking if you'd come to your own father's funeral!"