Huzzah! A sensible guy!

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linaerys had a couple of great links I have to pass on. Finally, a man weighs in on the whole "the guy couldn't help it" meme that says women are always to blame for whatever happens to them.

I am not my cock
I want to go on record as saying a big, mean Fuck You to every single man who has ever claimed that men are incapable of stopping themselves when pussy is on the line.

When someone in his comments used the old "she didn't DESERVE it, but hey, she tempted them y'know, it was like me leaving my keys in the car in a bad neighborhood," he wrote a sequel. The point is not only that women are more likely to be raped doing normal, everyday shit, but that they're constantly forced to justify themselves when it happens. That we consider this acceptable is the fucking problem, and in my humble opinion, we need to shut the fuck up with the robbery-car-metaphors, and talk about the rape-assault-evil facts.

Highly, highly recommended reading.

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"We men don't like being told we 'can't' do something

A great deal of the relationship bullshit out there is also along those lines, because many of those books really DO come right out and say, in the words of the original poster "men are either animals, retarded children, or monsters without self restraint who must therefore be carefully controlled." Fascinating Womanhood, The Rules, and Surrendered Wife are all about control. Men are from Mars simply tells women to put up with the behavior and deal (whereas men get a free pass - no shit, one of his pieces of advice to men is to pretend to listen to women.)

I think it's time we started calling a spade a spade every time that bullshit happens. "She should have known what to expect" "Why does her lack of self control excuse theirs?" "Men are just like that." "Well, if you can't control yourself, maybe you shouldn't be allowed out in public until you can." "Men need their egos stroked." "So do women. We're all human." "Men are simple like children." "Then I'm going to spank you and put you to bed without dinner. Call me when you've grown up."