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neadods ([personal profile] neadods) wrote2008-12-10 05:01 pm

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This day has been the sort that you just endure until its over, and it's getting worse.

Two people are undergoing surgery.

The first is my father, and no, I'm not going into the details on LJ. When I called home to find out what was up with Dad, my mother would only tell me that he was still in surgery and she'd call later - but her idea of encouragement was to say "don't worry" (Hello? Father? SURGERY?) and to advise prayer, because being worried about my dad is not reason enough for her to forgo yet another dig about my atheism. Silly me, I thought we could put that off until we had the by-now 15-year-old annual fight about hauling me unwillingly to church on Christmas Eve.

The other is David Tennant, who has a slipped disc, poor guy. They say he will not be back in Hamlet "before Christmas," and since my tickets are for the 29th, my chances of seeing him are probably nil.

Plan B is taking their offer of exchanging tickets (but I think Hamlet is the only one with a Monday performance) or seeing Hamlet anyway (it's not like the RSC does bad performances)... but in that event, I do wish it was a play I was fonder of.

I hate waiting. Mother hasn't called back yet. He's out of surgery okay; we will know more tomorrow, and Mother reminds me that no news is good news, although frankly? I'd rather have hourly "no, everything's fine" messages.

[identity profile] karenmiller.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 10:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, that's sucky big time. Good thoughts to your Dad. And having had a slipped disc myself, I feel for DT. But how horrible for you to miss out on the production.
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[personal profile] lagilman 2008-12-10 10:16 pm (UTC)(link)
my soon-to-be-brother in law is in surgery now too (replacing his knee). I will sit here and worry with you...

[identity profile] jennetj.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 10:22 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm not a huge Hamlet fan, either, but I still think it's worth it just for the Gertrude. It's so rare to have a really strong gertrude. Patrick Stewart is good, too, of course. What would you be exchanging into?

[identity profile] neadods.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 10:26 pm (UTC)(link)
Best of luck to him!

[identity profile] neadods.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 10:26 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you, re: Dad. And I understand about David, I really do: it's not like he's pulling a diva *or* that he's not around to act again.

[identity profile] neadods.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 10:28 pm (UTC)(link)
I still think it's worth it just for the Gertrude.

That does mean something, because I don't think I've ever seen a really good Gertrude. But... I'd feel the lack less if it was Midsummer or Much Ado. Or if I hadn't given up Scott W's Claudius for this and bragged about my ticket to the entire world

[identity profile] starcat-jewel.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 10:43 pm (UTC)(link)
Damn, I hope things get better for you.

Much as I hate to say this, the bit about: advise prayer, because being worried about my dad is not reason enough for her to forgo yet another dig about my atheism sets off alarm bells. If (avert!) anything should go wrong, it sounds as though you're being set up to take the blame because you won't play along with the religion thing. ("You wouldn't even PRAY for your own FATHER!")

This is a really toxic meme, and I mention it only because I'd hate to see you get broadsided by it with no chance to mentally prepare. Note that even if your father pulls thru this incident just fine, the threat remains for anything else that arises in the future.

[identity profile] thanatos-kalos.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 10:46 pm (UTC)(link)
::hugs and good vibes to your dad::

[identity profile] karenmiller.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 11:10 pm (UTC)(link)
No, but it is crap timing for you. :(

[identity profile] neadods.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 11:10 pm (UTC)(link)
If (avert!) anything should go wrong, it sounds as though you're being set up to take the blame because you won't play along with the religion thing. ("You wouldn't even PRAY for your own FATHER!")

Oh, she's already told me the parable about the girl whose father died and then she broke her mother's heart by not even showing up for the church funeral and wasn't that awful and horrible, and was any belief system more important than her mother's feelings? That cheerful story was told two Christmases ago.

There wasn't much of an answer when I asked if the girl's feelings ever got to be part of the picture, and why one woman's feelings were more important than another's.

By the way, this conversation in her head is now "I was just asking if you'd come to your own father's funeral!"
Edited 2008-12-10 23:12 (UTC)

[identity profile] neadods.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 11:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you.

[identity profile] chibiaingeal.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 11:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh dear! I'm sorry it's been such a bad day for you. *HUGS* I'll keep you in my thoughts that things improve for you (and your family).

[identity profile] neadods.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 11:12 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you.

[identity profile] chibiaingeal.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 11:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Hope everything goes well for the future BIL.

[identity profile] neadods.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 11:13 pm (UTC)(link)
True. But then, so is my father's surgery right before Christmas... and only a couple of years after they did even more major surgery right before Christmas.

[identity profile] karenmiller.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 11:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Bleah!
lagilman: coffee or die (Default)

[personal profile] lagilman 2008-12-10 11:17 pm (UTC)(link)
It's 'only' knee surgery, so he should be fine -- the recovery's going to be tough, since they just moved into a two story house. Ooops....

*spreads the fast-recovery wishes around to everyone, with an extra dollop to the economy*
lagilman: coffee or die (oy)

[personal profile] lagilman 2008-12-10 11:19 pm (UTC)(link)
just remember, it's never to late to run way from home...

[identity profile] stoplookingup.livejournal.com 2008-12-10 11:34 pm (UTC)(link)
Sending you good wishes, and your Dad, and DT, too. Hope tomorrow's better.

[identity profile] shawan-7.livejournal.com 2008-12-11 12:04 am (UTC)(link)
I hope all is well with your father. Please keep in touch about this. Parents are too precious.

Oh crap

[identity profile] mustangsally78.livejournal.com 2008-12-11 12:05 am (UTC)(link)
That's just crappy.

I hope your dad is better, I'm sorry your mom is giving you agita and there's fuck all to be done about Tennant.

This bunneh disapproves of the bullshit you are going through.

BUT pre-Christmas in London? I'm sure there's all kinds of cool things you can do instead of stand in Hamlet. Providing that London is open after 5 pm, which I thought it wasn't in the 90's.

[identity profile] ladyfox7oaks.livejournal.com 2008-12-11 12:09 am (UTC)(link)
Actually, the exercise provided by the stairs should help him recover faster. My Dad had both knees replaced, and each time they had him up and walking within a day, if not hours- of the surgery.

*Will also light incense tonight for everyone to heal, and be happy and healthy for the holidays!*

[identity profile] ladyfox7oaks.livejournal.com 2008-12-11 12:11 am (UTC)(link)
Here, have an icon full of DT huggy goodness!

[identity profile] neadods.livejournal.com 2008-12-11 12:26 am (UTC)(link)
Don't tempt me.

[identity profile] neadods.livejournal.com 2008-12-11 12:27 am (UTC)(link)
I will. All I know now is he's out and doing okay and Mother won't call unless there's a problem... so silence, if nerve-wracking is good.

I'll be calling home again after work tomorrow, and she has work and cell #s.

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