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[neadods]

This day has been the sort that you just endure until its over, and it's getting worse.

Two people are undergoing surgery.

The first is my father, and no, I'm not going into the details on LJ. When I called home to find out what was up with Dad, my mother would only tell me that he was still in surgery and she'd call later - but her idea of encouragement was to say "don't worry" (Hello? Father? SURGERY?) and to advise prayer, because being worried about my dad is not reason enough for her to forgo yet another dig about my atheism. Silly me, I thought we could put that off until we had the by-now 15-year-old annual fight about hauling me unwillingly to church on Christmas Eve.

The other is David Tennant, who has a slipped disc, poor guy. They say he will not be back in Hamlet "before Christmas," and since my tickets are for the 29th, my chances of seeing him are probably nil.

Plan B is taking their offer of exchanging tickets (but I think Hamlet is the only one with a Monday performance) or seeing Hamlet anyway (it's not like the RSC does bad performances)... but in that event, I do wish it was a play I was fonder of.

I hate waiting. Mother hasn't called back yet. He's out of surgery okay; we will know more tomorrow, and Mother reminds me that no news is good news, although frankly? I'd rather have hourly "no, everything's fine" messages.

Comments

[karenmiller.livejournal.com]

Well, that's sucky big time. Good thoughts to your Dad. And having had a slipped disc myself, I feel for DT. But how horrible for you to miss out on the production.

[jennetj.livejournal.com]

I'm not a huge Hamlet fan, either, but I still think it's worth it just for the Gertrude. It's so rare to have a really strong gertrude. Patrick Stewart is good, too, of course. What would you be exchanging into?

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you, re: Dad. And I understand about David, I really do: it's not like he's pulling a diva *or* that he's not around to act again.

[lagilman]

my soon-to-be-brother in law is in surgery now too (replacing his knee). I will sit here and worry with you...

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Best of luck to him!

[chibiaingeal.livejournal.com]

Hope everything goes well for the future BIL.

[starcat-jewel.livejournal.com]

Damn, I hope things get better for you.

Much as I hate to say this, the bit about: advise prayer, because being worried about my dad is not reason enough for her to forgo yet another dig about my atheism sets off alarm bells. If (avert!) anything should go wrong, it sounds as though you're being set up to take the blame because you won't play along with the religion thing. ("You wouldn't even PRAY for your own FATHER!")

This is a really toxic meme, and I mention it only because I'd hate to see you get broadsided by it with no chance to mentally prepare. Note that even if your father pulls thru this incident just fine, the threat remains for anything else that arises in the future.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

If (avert!) anything should go wrong, it sounds as though you're being set up to take the blame because you won't play along with the religion thing. ("You wouldn't even PRAY for your own FATHER!")

Oh, she's already told me the parable about the girl whose father died and then she broke her mother's heart by not even showing up for the church funeral and wasn't that awful and horrible, and was any belief system more important than her mother's feelings? That cheerful story was told two Christmases ago.

There wasn't much of an answer when I asked if the girl's feelings ever got to be part of the picture, and why one woman's feelings were more important than another's.

By the way, this conversation in her head is now "I was just asking if you'd come to your own father's funeral!"

[thanatos-kalos.livejournal.com]

::hugs and good vibes to your dad::

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[chibiaingeal.livejournal.com]

Oh dear! I'm sorry it's been such a bad day for you. *HUGS* I'll keep you in my thoughts that things improve for you (and your family).

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[stoplookingup.livejournal.com]

Sending you good wishes, and your Dad, and DT, too. Hope tomorrow's better.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

Tomorrow will be better if I at least get a decent dinner and enough sleep. Because exhaustion, hunger, overwork, and bashing my head against a door have also been fun events in this hilarious day.

[shawan-7.livejournal.com]

I hope all is well with your father. Please keep in touch about this. Parents are too precious.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

I will. All I know now is he's out and doing okay and Mother won't call unless there's a problem... so silence, if nerve-wracking is good.

I'll be calling home again after work tomorrow, and she has work and cell #s.

Oh crap

[mustangsally78.livejournal.com]

That's just crappy.

I hope your dad is better, I'm sorry your mom is giving you agita and there's fuck all to be done about Tennant.

This bunneh disapproves of the bullshit you are going through.

BUT pre-Christmas in London? I'm sure there's all kinds of cool things you can do instead of stand in Hamlet. Providing that London is open after 5 pm, which I thought it wasn't in the 90's.

Re: Oh crap

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you, I hope so too, if it's not one thing it's my mother, and yeah, poor boy.

It'll be post-Christmas in London, but unless the entire West End melts down, I won't be able to complain about who I do or don't get to see... I've got tickets for four plays, and if Tennant is still out (okay, a part of me keeps hoping he'll be back in the nick of time) I'll have seen Patrick Stewart, John Barrowman, Rowan Atkinson, Burn Gorman, and Derek Jacobi.

Sooooo... five out of six isn't anything to complain about!

[ladyfox7oaks.livejournal.com]

Here, have an icon full of DT huggy goodness!

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[havocthecat]

Ack. I hope everything goes well for your dad.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[violetisblue.livejournal.com]

Yeah, just from what I know about discectomies/laminotomies/etc. via, er, our firm's various lawsuits I would expect DT to be recuperating well into January. Best of thoughts for your father.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

More of me than should be is still secretly hoping he'll come back just in time for us to see him. But the sensible part thinks that it's more important for him to recuperate fully so he can continue to act for a very long time. I can always get another ticket another year for another performance...

...and given the cosmic choice, I'd rather see his Benedict than his Hamlet anyway.

[tempestsarekind.livejournal.com]

Yikes. Best wishes, on all fronts.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[boogiebabe-smap.livejournal.com]

Aw, frak! I can't believe that your parents didn't tell you your dad was going into surgery before he was on the table! And then to lay a guilt trip on you on top of it! Oy! (You've known for years that your Mom doesn't give a d@mn about YOUR feelings when it comes to things like this. In this case, I'd cut her some slack 'cause she's obviously worried about your dad. She just completely fails to understand that you're worried, too.)

My strongest wishes that your dad makes a full recovery.

And I'll keep my fingers crossed that Tennant is back in time for your visit.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

I knew he was going into surgery, but it hasn't been that cosmically long than I knew when and why. Like that time a couple of years ago, the story changed every time I asked a question.

Am I selfish if I hope David is either back in time or not back at all? I'd hate to hear he returned the night I was off at another play. Shallow Nea is still shallow.

[nycdeb.livejournal.com]

coming late to this - glad to hear your dad came through surgery OK. Will think good thoughts

Didn't know David had slipped a disc. My mom did that a couple of time when I was younger. She had two fusion operations. I was 8 before I realized she could walk upright. Very painful stuff for her.

[persiflage-1.livejournal.com]

Very best wishes for your dad's health and a speedy recovery.

As for DT, I know (a little) how you feel - my ticket's for Jan 2. But of course, I have already seen him in Hamlet (lucky me).

Gertrude, though, is really good, and the company as a whole is also good. If David's not back by the time I go, I shall be interested to see how Edward's Hamlet is, since I found his Laertes a trifle uneven...

[neadods.livejournal.com]

my ticket's for Jan 2.

Am I really really selfish for saying that I hope at this point he doesn't come back at all? Because it would really kill me if I missed him and then heard he was back when I was seeing one of the other plays.

The unselfish reason is that I hope he takes enough time to recuperate, because if he's completely healthy, then he's not going to have a relapse later, which means that there is time for both of us to buy tickets another year for another performance and please let it be one of the comedies this time.

[flaviarassen.livejournal.com]

Oh, I am so sorry to hear all this.

(Would it help if you told your mother than I'll pray for
your dad? I mean, she shouldn't care that I'm Jewish, right?)

[neadods.livejournal.com]

It would help. Certainly I was calling in every creed and faith when Dad went through very major surgery a couple of years ago!

[mevennen.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear about this - I hope your dad is on the mend soon. Yesterday seems to have been the universe's day for sending out crappiness (I nearly crashed the car, injured my knee in an unrelated incident and now also have laryngitis, and my cousin came off his bike and broke his hip). I know hearing about other people's woes never helps, but you're not alone.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Misery loves company is a truism!

[spiralsheep.livejournal.com]

I hope your father's recovery goes well.

[neadods.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

On the good news front, nobody's called me today.

On the my nerves are shot to shit front, nobody's called me today.

[fyrdrakken]

I definitely hope your father's surgery went well, and I'm sorry to hear that your mother used it as an opportunity to get in a dig.

And I definitely hope DT recovers completely and is able to spend many years to come on stage, and am only marginally less envious of you for the upcoming trip. (Less than two days I got to spend in London this summer, and the second one mostly booked up with other people!)

[neadods.livejournal.com]

No matter who goes when, someone's going to be jealous! I'm jealous of jennetj for getting to The Hub, and she's jealous of me seeing Derek.