Look in the mirror before you complain...

Actual phrases used during a facebook conversation about being offered membership in a group:

"17 years"
"maybe never"
"highest expectation to meet new people and give recommendations"
"cultural fit"

And when it was pointed out that attitudes like this are WHY the group is not seen as welcoming (much less membership being a goal these days), the phrases became:

"my tree house"
"complaints"
"stamping their feet"

And still, within that very conversation some folks just can't figure out whyyyyyyyyyyy their group isn't seen as welcoming or membership a goal.