Another Dad Update
Nov. 13th, 2004 07:44 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
neadodsWell, this just got more joyous. My brother called, in the interests of comparing thoughts, fears, and plans.
Turns out that nobody mentioned to me that Dad ALSO has a big cyst on his liver that will be removed at the same time. my brother also came up with the statistic that there's a 6% mortality rate during recuperation from something like this. Now, as I pointed out to him, 6% is low and there's a chance of all sorts of things when you operate but... oy.
And he thinks I should think less about what I want and more about the stress Mother is under, but the more I think about it, the more I like the suggestion that I bring the Christmas on. It gives me something to focus on and takes the pressure completely off Mother.
Turns out that nobody mentioned to me that Dad ALSO has a big cyst on his liver that will be removed at the same time. my brother also came up with the statistic that there's a 6% mortality rate during recuperation from something like this. Now, as I pointed out to him, 6% is low and there's a chance of all sorts of things when you operate but... oy.
And he thinks I should think less about what I want and more about the stress Mother is under, but the more I think about it, the more I like the suggestion that I bring the Christmas on. It gives me something to focus on and takes the pressure completely off Mother.
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Hang in there
Yes, an outlet and diversion is often a good thing - both for you and those you can relieve.
Best wishes for your dad's successful operation and swift recovery.
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Banazir
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Date: 2004-11-13 06:55 pm (UTC)Your bringing the Christmas on might actually be good for your mother as well as you, so long as she's not being asked to do holiday-related work. There's only so much thinking-of-the-other-person's-stress that's healthy...and if it's a holiday you've all enjoyed, it might be good to have something rather than nothing.
Besides, ummm...what would your father like? If he likes the holiday celebrations, having something is probably a good idea for his recuperative process.
Good vibes for all of you from here.